The practical roles of the adult
Adults have many roles in societies. In addition, they participate in the well-being of children by guiding them towards the objectives of living together better. One major role promotes and values behaviour based on dialogue and listening to others. The other roles are in the following.
Facilitator-referent of a reference adult:
Consciously or unconsciously, voluntarily or involuntarily, the adult influences the child. By his behaviour, words, actions, the way he addresses the child, the adult gives credibility and reinforces his educational message or, on the contrary, weakens it.
If the adult chooses violence, shouting, humiliation to make himself respected, he legitimises the violence and will have all the difficulties in the world to refuse that of the child. Conversely, the adult who shows respect shows his difference and his preference for other values. They show the child that there are alternatives to violence.
The adult is the essential element of the educational and pedagogical project, neither hedgehog nor doormat. Trained, motivated and competent, they must be able to fulfil the educational function entrusted to them:
Regulating conflicts within people
When a child is the victim of violence, insults, mockery, bullying by his or her peers, he or she sometimes comes to the adult for help. If the latter is not attentive, violence may be imposed by default. On the other hand, witnessing a violent conflict implies a responsibility on the part of the adult.
Saying to the child: “I don’t want you to hit” is not always enough to calm people down. It is often useful to help by reminding/fixing the framework within which the argument can take place. Reminding the protagonists of a conflict that violence is not tolerated and that dialogue should be preferred is a way of setting the limits of the conflict. That is to say. You can argue, you can give your opinion, but without violence.
We can say that the places of adults in societies are really considerable and are more than important.